Today one of my friend came back after leaving her 4 year old in a Sainik (Military) Boarding School...she was feeling miserable as she missed him so badly..i myself had tears in my eyes...i cannot imagine putting my son in a boarding school..her husband said that the child should be very disciplined and this will benefit the kid..but i am confused the child is just 4 years old what about his emotional needs..what about the sense of security of being with his family..hugging his mom..being taken out by his parents..how will he ever get all those in a boarding school..the love care and affection of parents...would you ever put your kids in boarding school? do u think this is the only way of disciplining a child? is not 4 years too young a age for a child to be seperated from his family? waht is the right age for going to a boarding school?
[question posted by nupats]
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I think it's cruel to put a young child in a boarding school and it's more for the parents' benefit than the child's. I don't think it's appropriate until they reach college age. Why would someone not want their child to live with them?! [dragon54u]
i agree with you..it is cruel to seperate such a small kid from his family..i look at my son and see how he constantly needs my reassuarance and wants me to pick him anhd hug him...sometimes he cries in his dream and i just hug him close and gently stroke his head and he feel assured or maybe secured and sleeps peacefully..who will care for such a small child in a boarding school..when they are grown up and need to go out for professional courses then it is surely understandable..i will never let my baby be away from me..he is my lifeline..and best part my husband also cannot stay without him..so i know he is just going to normal school and then be with us.. [nupats]
Hi nupats, I am totally aginst sending childrens to boarding schools or even putting them in hostels.In my opinion, children should always be in front of us and we can put them in more dicipline than in hostels or boarding schools. Good Luck. [season0907]
i agree with you..it is cruel to seperate such a small kid from his family..i look at my son and see how he constantly needs my reassuarance and wants me to pick him anhd hug him...sometimes he cries in his dream and i just hug him close and gently stroke his head and he feel assured or maybe secured and sleeps peacefully..who will care for such a small child in a boarding school..when they are grown up and need to go out for professional courses then it is surely understandable..i will never let my baby be away from me..he is my lifeline..and best part my husband also cannot stay without him..so i know he is just going to normal school and then be with us.. [nupats]
Hmmmm Well i believe that its really too young of agwe to send to kid for boarding as not only he will be emotinally away from the family and might not have the importance of the relation, and it will be hard for him to mingle up with siblings and family later on , when he completed its edcuation, and he will be so disciplined that he might not adjust in relax environment of home. i, myself and 2 of my brothers were in boarding school for 6 -8 yrs, but we were sent to boarding of public school at class 7 , so we were 12-13 yrs of age, sure boarding life has its own charms and advantage and it really disciplined u as every hour there is scheduled and then u r used to of it. they only not focus on studies, but on sports as well as personality grooming Take care [cupid74]
hmm thats fine just go for ithappy [cupid74]
I can never understand that, Why have a child and have someone else to bring up. Why bother to have a child in the first place. It looks to me its a coat-hanger child, one you bring out every now and again and say "LOOK PEOPLE I HAVE A CHILD". BIG DEAL, Ive got a DOG TO, Im sure my DOG gets more love than that COAT-HANGER CHILD. HICCUP/ [hiccup]
i agree with you..it is cruel to seperate such a small kid from his family..i look at my son and see how he constantly needs my reassuarance and wants me to pick him anhd hug him...sometimes he cries in his dream and i just hug him close and gently stroke his head and he feel assured or maybe secured and sleeps peacefully..who will care for such a small child in a boarding school..when they are grown up and need to go out for professional courses then it is surely understandable..i will never let my baby be away from me..he is my lifeline..and best part my husband also cannot stay without him..so i know he is just going to normal school and then be with us.. [nupats]
Wow, why bother to have children at all if you have the ship them somewhere else. My oldest son went off to Military School when he was 18 and that was hard enough to let him go. But because it was West Point he got a free college education and a salary. But a child that small, that is almost child abuse to me.rolleyes [Barbietre]
agree with you..it is cruel to seperate such a small kid from his family..i look at my son and see how he constantly needs my reassuarance and wants me to pick him anhd hug him...sometimes he cries in his dream and i just hug him close and gently stroke his head and he feel assured or maybe secured and sleeps peacefully..who will care for such a small child in a boarding school..when they are grown up and need to go out for professional courses then it is surely understandable..i will never let my baby be away from me..he is my lifeline..and best part my husband also cannot stay without him..so i know he is just going to normal school and then be with us.. [nupats]
It is the best but it might be too expensive atimes. however,i think 4 year old is still too young to go to a boarding School. [alpha7]
i cannot relate to children being sent to boarding schools it is so heartbreaking..i will never let my son go to a boarding school and do everything that would benefit in his development as a good human being.. [nupats]
Well seperating the child at the age of 4 is not right but if the parents want to send children to boarding school so they should board them at the age of 10.............. [Kingofthekings]