Because You Didn't Become Successful?
Would You Consider On Not Going Because You Don't Have Anything To Show Off?
Or To Heck With Them? You'll Still Attend?
Some would be unwilling to go because they are embarrassed of what they have become. Perhaps, just so they didn't achieve their goals, others might think they're a failure.
Some would be so excited because they have been successful in their fields.
But for me, I don't care if I'm successful and others are not. I won't bring up and brag about me all night long. I don't care if people will talk about me and of failing to be successful. They can say all they want.
Reunions are for meeting old and long lost friends again. Rekindle the memories you all once shared. Happy and sad events of your school life. So, there's no sense in trying to step on someone who hasn't gone as far as you...
[question posted by eihdra]
responses and comments:
eihdra no i wont be embarrassed to attend because what i have done in my life is given by god and we must not regret anything given by him.And going to our friends success i would have been participated fairly in his/her success and to make sure that i m also happy. [siddiqali]
thanks...happy [eihdra]
Yup, I'd still attend. it would still be fun seeing relatives --both old and new. Beside if in case I did not become successful, so what? I'm sure I'm not the only one. Also, these are my relatives, their blood flows into mine so that should be okay. They should be proud of me for whatever I became to be. And if I'm the one who is successful and the others are not, I wouldn't brag about it as it might offend them in some way. [jammyt]
thanks jammyt... [eihdra]
I wouldn't be embarrassed but not being married and not wanting to be married as I like my independence, I hate it when some married people look at the single person as a loser or feel sorry for them...and one of the first questions mainly females ask is "are you married"....I guess there could be a good answer there... [lilaclady]
i always love it when me and my high school friends get together. we are pretty close and know each other's story so there really are no surprises during the reunion. it's just so good to share anecdotes and life stories with them even if we already know most of them. our batch consisted of 4 sections. it's seldom that the guys from other sections join us coz we're not really that close and we don't mingle a lot even before. it really doesn't matter whether you're successful or not coz as you share your life stories you'll find out that each of you has problems to bear and it's not really all about the career. some may raked in a lot of money but is still not happy with her life. what matters most is that you reconnect lost friendships and renew the old ones... [desireeo]
same with me..my friends from HS and I are still communicating from time to time, so to keep abreast of what's been happening in our lives..thanks desiree.. [eihdra]
No, I'm not embarrassed. I'll be the one who say, to heck with them. lol They want to show off, then fine. Let them have their moment. Most probably I'd just stay in and meet my old friends and get to know some who I wasn't able to get a chance to be friends with. I actually had a glimpse of what would happen if I go to my high school reunion. I was an officer in our CAT (army training in high school) and one of my subordinates' relative is from my batch as well. We met 4 months ago and guess what, he kept on mocking me like "Sir, yes sir!". I didn't mind. I just hope I could help him to get past high school life but it's gonna take a quite an effort. It's been 11 years. lol [zeroflashx2]
lolgoodluck with that...thanks.. [eihdra]
i would still go even if i wasn't successful. like many have said, rather than showing off, it's too catch up with old friends. i am not successful, am married and don't really know the ways of others as i have a totally different lifestyle than others you could say. it would be really awkward for me to mix around with them especially when i'm not that sociable as well. but i do have at least one or two friends that i can have a heart to heart chat with, and that would be more than enough for me. [sminut13]
thanks sminut... [eihdra]
I am happy with how I have turned out so that wouldn't stop me attending the school reunion. However I don't think I'd go to a school reunion cause there is no one I really want to see again. The 3 people I do care to see from high school I already see on a regular basis. [chapcity]
good point!! thanks... [eihdra]
I would be a little embarrassed yeah, with me being overweight like this. I used to be considered pretty when I was in school, but now I'm just plain fat, and I'm not comfortable with it. Actually my elementary school alumni are planning a reunion this end of July, and I intend to lose some or many weights before the time comes, or else I wouldn't come, so please wish me luck. I'm going to the gym in an hour, and I hope to go there daily till I get my body back. [ucancallmedissy]
but don't strain yourself too much, be careful..and just be your own self...thanks.. [eihdra]
Last year, it happened that my old high school mates organized a small reunion. They announced it through Friendster. I, actually, received numerous messages from them. But I didn't attend that reunion because of circumstances. I'm a stay-at-home mom for more than 5 years now. And if I was able to attend that reunion, I would be proud to tell them of my current situation. I may not be a successful career woman, but I'm successful when it comes to taking care of my husband and son. And as what you've said reunions are for meeting old friends and talking about the happy memories, and also the not so happy parts. If there are those who love to brag about what they have become, then I feel sorry for them. The whole world doesn't need to know about their success. Only insecure people do that. [jcj_111776]
I'm a SAHM too and I'm proud of it, same with you..Hah!! Who said that being a SAHM isn't a career? thanks... [eihdra]
I would go just to be able to shove in their faces my happiness. Being successful isn't always about money, it can be about happiness. During high school alot of kids wouldn't talk to me because I was a "jock" and going to a high school reunion with them thinking they were my best friend would be upsetting. But knowing that I probably have more happiness than alot of people there would satisfy me a great deal. That would be shoving it in their face. [puppabear]
thanks puppabear and welcome to Mylot!! [eihdra]
no. for me it will not be about material things or finances, reunion for me is reconnecting with people who made history with me then. [hailsferrer]
thanks for postin... [eihdra]
I have never been to a class reunion and I have no plans on ever attending one. School was a place I was required to go to. I don't think I made any "friends" in the real sense of the word while in school. I was kept too busy getting an education. I don't "miss" anyone whom I went to school with, and I have no urgent "need" to see any of my classmates. The friendships I've made throughout my lifetime are what I'd consider real friendships. There are not all that many, but those that exist are REAL. I'm not embarrassed because of lack of success. I've been far more successful in life than I could have ever imagined I would be. [rjscott]
I have bestfriends when I was in highschool and they are still the best friends I have until now..As with me, I never had any real or true friends at work because I too was busy working than socializing..thanks to both of you... [eihdra]
Well I think that one must attend the reunion irrespective of his current position whether he is succeded or not.The meaning of reunion is getting back the past memories of our old friends as they are with us.No one thinks over whether you are succeded or not,friends always accepts us at any cost.So I think one must attend the reunion and enjoy the event. [Bshivakumarchary]
i would not attend because i have gained so much weight since high school. i just would not feel comfortable. as far as not being successful financially that is not an issue for me. i do not judge others but i feel i am being judged because i do not look as good as i used to. [mikeysmom]
just a question my dear...your words "but I feel I am being judged", may mean that YOU are judging yourself because you said " because I don not look as good as I used to"? [eihdra]
Reunions are about meeting people you once knew and having fun. I would not be embarrassed if I was not successful. This would just drive me harder to be successful for the next reunion in 10 or so years. [aimsmith]
That's the spirit!! thanks and welcome to Mylot!! [eihdra]
I would not give up myself. I will definitely participate in reunion. I am sure i am not missing anything. [tomkite]
Yes, I have to admit that part of the reason that I did not attend my last reunion was because I did not reach the professsional success that I had hoped to. The second reason was because I could not (did not want to) spend the money on the tickets. I don't think I'm "a failure" in life. I spent the greater part of the last 12 years as a stay at home mom. I worked in between some of those years but not a lot. I don't think there is anything wrong with being a stay at home mom. I just didnt' want to be around people who might be looking down on me or might not have respect for my choices. It was just easier not to go than to worry about awkwardness. [miamilady]
I'm a SAHM too, and no, there's nothing wrong with being one..Instead we should be proud...thanks... [eihdra]
I would be a little embarrassed only because of my weight. In stead of losing the weight after school I have gained more . But you know what I have lost weight too so . I think I have done okay so far in my life and still always on the verge of great things . I suppose I would say I am a teacher and a writer , and I also give a helping hand in the world . I think my 10 year is coming up soon too . It would be nice to say I am married though and have a child . I am engaged and have been for 8 years . Yeah , that makes people wonder .See I am not sure if I would go , but I would be curious to see whats up with some people . If I never some of my friends were gonna be there then yes . Whos know I may be thinner by then and actually have my first book published . For some its is a show off and that would bother me , but if that is all the care about then what is the point . I am sure many of them have grown up , and many are still jerks , and the same. Guess , we will see . The way I look at it is we live our own life , and afer the few hrs we wont see them again for years . I rememeber I said the next time I see everyone I will be thin , and rich , and be married to an athlete . And you know what those are such little things to me now lol. [metschica25]
well, goodluck on your first book!! [eihdra]
I wouldn;t be embarassed to go to my class reunion. GRanted I am not working, unmarried, and have no children. But I still think I am successful. I survived cancer, am in a loving relationship, became an minister and working on a book. My dreams are coming true, even if they are different from what I wanted in high school. [soulist]
A survivor!!!It doesn't matter if things turned out differently, just so long as we are happy and contented with our life now..thanks... [eihdra]
I went to my 10th year high school reunion, but I didn't go to my 20th partly because of that reason. But, mostly I didn't go because I just didn't think any of my friends that I knew would be there or even remember me. Also, during the 10th year reunion, they had the music on so loud that it was impossible to hold a conversation with anyone, so I didn't think this reunion would be any better. Well, it turned out that many of the friends I remembered were actually there, so I wish that I went. Oh well. I don't really regret it because I still think that no one would remember me. [desertdarlene]
I lost contact with all my high school friends since the last reunion and I wasn't a very notable person. People tend not to remember me even as little as a year later, unless I did something to upset them. [desertdarlene]
A lot of people attach financial well being to how successful someone is... Granted success comes with some sort of wealth but I've also ran into few who are miserable for one reason or another despite how much money they have... Idea of success is really a personal thing... Some will see their life as success regardless of how much money they do or don't have & vise versa... I couldn't careless how people see me due to my financial standing... If I goto a reunion & my former class mates see how happy I am, few that were close will ask me as to why I'm happy... They'll realize it's not because I have money but it's what I have achieved in my life since the last time I've met them... Flip side of that, I'd be happy for those who were close to me if they were in a situation that they would consider successful... I wouldn't rub my success to anyone else... [sk66rc]
honestly, you're right...who would want to be successful but a failure when it comes to happiness?..thanks [eihdra]
I wont feel embarassed.I totally agree with what you mentioned.I come there to have reunion with friends who i might not been contacting since ages and don't care if im a successful women or not.Its a matter of meeting up with friens,share updates about ourselves even its a bad side.Still,friendship bonding need to get intact during reunion.That's why reunion have been held. I knew some may feel embarassed for their unsuccesful past,but they must not stay at their own pase.They need to move on. [dianagnes]
I would definitely be embarrassed if I was not successful and others are. But I will go to meet everyone. Though I would be emabarrassed, I would be very happy for the successful ones. [funnyguy123]
thanks and welcome to Mylot!! [eihdra]
The way I see it, is i have nothing to prove the people I use to know, Reagardless if I am successful or not. I would still attend, Its not like there any better than me or even below me. We all just took different paths. As long as your happy with you life in it current status, Then there is nothing to be embrassed about. And I agree with you, A reunion is To see the people you once spent countless time with, your old best friends, people shouldn't be so concern with other peoples social status. [sugerbaby80808]
thanks and welcome to Mylot too!! [eihdra]
I would go weather or not I am sucessful. I just would go to see old friends and see what everyone has done in their lifes. [babyfirefighter]
This is something that I have to think about because my first reunion is going to be in 2010. I don't know if I'll be able to afford to go, though. I don't think I would be embarassed to go because at that point I would probably still be in school and working on either my master's degree or my PhD. I just think it would be weird to go, though. I can't remember what movie it's from, but I remember in this movie, someone is talking about how they went to their high school reunion and they said..."It was as if everyone had swelled". I think it was Grosse Pointe Blank, but not sure. Anyway, I'm sure that's how it would be like lol. [phoenix25]
thanks phoenix..goodluck on your PhD.. [eihdra]
I would not attend a class reunion if someone paid me to go, simply because a) it would be held in a state that I don't want to ever step foot in again b) my high school doesn't even notice I'm missing, c) Most of my high school memories are crap I'm not successful, but that isn't what is keeping me from going, its the fact that I was an outcast in my highschool. No sense in bringing up bad memories. Mooch [oneandonemakesix]
okay, mooch, I won't say anything anymore...happy [eihdra]
Hi I don't think I would be embarrassed to attend my reunion because after all it is meant to relive the past. I believe that life is a collection of moments...those moments which are full of life and reunions, get-together s, and other social gatherings are a very good way of collecting such moments and reliving them. Though I am still a student, I don't think my relative success would hinder my plans of attending a reunion and who knows the event may open new doors to success after all one thing this universe and it's creatures cannot give up is "HOPE". [atulmmishra]
hi.. I like what you said..thanks... [eihdra]
I'm 50 years young and we've had a couple of high school reunions and I haven't attended any of them. The 10 year reunion all they had was a dance at a country club, which I wasn't really in to and a Golf outing for the guys and Shopping get together for the girls, again not interested. The 25 year reunion I didn't go to either. I've gained alot of weight since high school and yes I would be embarrassed to attend. Plus, I really only had a couple of friends that attended my high school and most of the other ones were snooty and I really didn't like them anyway, so I figure, why socialize with them? Char :-) [CharRay7]
Why be embarassed? What defines successful? I think if you are truly happy in life, and living the liestyle tat suits you, you are successul. It's not all about trying to be better than everyone else. People push themselves way too hard. [danishcanadian]
yeah, I think so too...Success comes in many forms and not only financially..thanks again... [eihdra]
If it is a sudden reunion, thabun, I may get embarassed. [aryajayaprakash]
I think i would be embarrassed to attend my HS reunion if when i get there, my old friends are not around... I dont want to go there without my friends of course! i would make sure that they are going to attend the reunion too before i head to the party... Yes, its for meeting old friends, but what if they are not around? I wont pretend i'm comfortable talking with the others who are present. I rather go home than stay with those i'm not used to be with. [pearl1003]
I think you are exactly right. We should remember the fun times we had together as a class. There is no need for us to brag about what we have done. I'm happy for my classmates that are successful. [Sherry12]
I would still go even if I did not succeed on my career. Like you I don't go because of bragging and ranting it a reaunion not for stuff like that. I don't see any reason why unsuccessful person should not go to reunions. [ayessa]